Comments on: How do you get your child to do what you want? http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/2012/02/14/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-want/ Understanding children, their behaviour, and the effect our parenting style can have on them. Tue, 21 May 2013 11:54:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Jo http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/2012/02/14/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-want/#comment-303 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:32:42 +0000 http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/?p=485#comment-303 Yeah, that’s a good one!

]]> By: Beverly Brown http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/2012/02/14/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-want/#comment-302 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:13:28 +0000 http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/?p=485#comment-302 Sometimes I offer the choice: “Do you want to do it yourself or have me help you?”

]]> By: Vivienne http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/2012/02/14/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-want/#comment-291 Thu, 16 Feb 2012 21:19:51 +0000 http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/?p=485#comment-291 Connecting by joining with my child in what he is doing, eg. “I see you are busy with the …..”, show some interest, then move on to the request. This sometimes works, it came from the “Hold on to your kids” book. Similar to this, listening to what he is up to, often mine will be busy finishing something or putting something away, so he is not doing what I want because of this quite valid reason.

They only work when I do them though, I keep forgetting and hoping for some quick compliance, which ends up in a battle which I later regret (and of course takes longer anyway). Think I will print out your post and put it up somewhere to remind me!

]]> By: charlotte http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/2012/02/14/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-want/#comment-288 Tue, 14 Feb 2012 21:49:43 +0000 http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/?p=485#comment-288 The most important strategy for us is to connect before requesting anything – resistance is almost certain if we are not connected at the time. Thanks for the post x

]]> By: Sylvia@MaMammalia http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/2012/02/14/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-do-what-you-want/#comment-287 Tue, 14 Feb 2012 21:32:55 +0000 http://parentingwithunderstanding.com/?p=485#comment-287 Brilliant! I wrote something like this about gaining toddler compliance, but I love how you’ve used similar ideas for any age group. And “do it yourself” is such a great idea, one that I think we often forget. Too often, I think parents get hung up on the power struggle aspect of parenting. We aren’t entitled to have our kids do everything we ask every time. We can set a good example and hope they’ll follow. And yes, one day they will be capable of doing it all themselves…we might even miss asking.

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